Restorative Rituals for
Meaningful Self Care
How does one move forward?
This is a question I face with nearly every patient I encounter in my office. My patient who has been off of work and struggles with the first job application. My patient who has a history of severe trauma and can’t seem to trust enough to stay in a relationship. My patient who once dropped out of college after a suicide attempt, and now struggles to return to finish her degree.
To be fair, this is something I too struggle with on a day to day basis. I think about all the possible next steps for deepening my writing practice…an e-book, a digital magazine, expanding my blog…and I freeze. What if I fail? What if I succeed? Do I know enough? Am I good enough? How do I believe in myself?
With my patients, I often describe moving forward as a stool with three legs. We need each of the three legs for stability and grounding, as we take those first tentative steps. Here they are.
Each of these three tools has its own place in allowing us to step out of a place of paralysis, and into a place of action. Each tool alone is helpful, but not enough. We must understand our self limiting beliefs, and where those seeds were planted. We must hold that understanding, and our resulting emotions, with compassion and grace, as we practice forward motion anyway. The delicate interplay between understanding, mindfulness, and action, will slowly, patiently, ease us towards manifesting what feels most important to us.
So today, I invite you to join me in reflecting on an area of your life where you feel stuck. Is there a way to utilize the tools of understanding, mindfulness, and action, to allow you to gently move forward?
With gratitude, Monisha
As I enter into my 41st year, I felt a sudden desire to return here to my blog and write. It has been awhile. I have shared poems and other words on social media, and a few here as well. But, it has been some time since I have sat down to reflect, write out
For you whose light has been dimmed in an already dark world— For you whose voice has been muted in a loud screaming world— For you who feels lost in a world full of mirrors— Breathe. When every warm body is out of reach, you have the power to hold your own heart with a
Holding hands in the dark, the wash of moonlight spilling onto the sheets. A kiss on my cheek and a hug that lingers long enough to feel the solid warmth of skin and bone. The breath of a sunset sky, and the heat of thunder and lightning pouring cleansing waters from above. A singular burgundy